tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-79226002734950677072024-03-21T21:08:58.343-07:00Domestic Discipline Fantasy to RealityThis blog is exploring both the fantasy and the reality of my spanking obsession. I've fantasized about spanking for most of my life, and in this blog I'll write stories, reviews of items/movies/stories I love and explore the fantasy side of my obsession. I'll also be exploring the reality of attempting to incorporate domestic discipline into my marriage. From my fantasies to realities, this blog will explore in depth my experience of this thing we do.Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11081379375079349711noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125truetag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7922600273495067707.post-14033143835881059292012-02-06T15:53:00.001-08:002012-02-06T15:53:48.989-08:00Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11081379375079349711noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7922600273495067707.post-58562211445972583992011-11-07T18:37:00.000-08:002011-11-07T18:37:06.660-08:00The Dowel<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">So as I mentioned, last weekend we were due to have a visitor, (great seeing him, but I immediately took advantage of the situation and I've been paying for it all week). We had both realized that it was not enough time to pick much less buy an actual cane, and realized that we had zero quiet instruments. Then Cal gets a "brilliant" idea in his head, which he neglects to tell me about, (he mentioned stopping by home depot, which or course I didn't think much of). When we get there, he wanders off and comes back with these mean looking sticks...he says they're dowels..they look like this:</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit; font-size: large;">They come in various sizes and various types of wood. We went with oak and...I don't remember the other type...Anyway the oak is working terribly well. And it cost maybe $2 all up. The unknown(by me) wood type broke during our practice "session" but the oak has lasted all week, and on the fourth day of my week long punishment for falling so far out of line this week, my ass is begining to bruise, and I'm having dreams about destroying the evil thing....</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit; font-size: large;">Great tester for those who are unsure if they want to delve into the cane or not. I've read a number of complaints from spankers that the cane does not give enough feedback, as in they can't sense the strength as much, but many come to love it after they master the art. Cal has come to appreciate it for its quiet demeanor and quick behavior modification. He hasn't been smacking me full strength, going more for quick steady smacks all over, concentrating mostly on the sit spot. </span>Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11081379375079349711noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7922600273495067707.post-86176910806611329982011-11-02T10:05:00.000-07:002011-11-07T07:17:58.218-08:00What is an Effective DD Spanking<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: red; font-size: large;"><u>I'm going to preface this article by saying that I do intend to edit it, as I didn't really put enough time into it, but I will be leaving it up until I have the time, hopefully that will be sometime this week, although since we are moving, who knows...</u></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">There are many articles dedicated to this, all containing personal preferences. But I have found them all interesting to read, (although I have not showed any to Cal as of yet, for fear he might decide to give them all a try...I've decided he doesn't need anymore information on the subject ;). But for those of you who are thinking of implementing dd into your lives, or already have but are unsure if the severity is where it needs to be, here are some tips from articles I've found in my searches:</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">I think where the difficulty lies within the article is "just what is a HARD stroke?" A woman might have to go to her full force, while a man might do serious damage using full force. And it could be about the spankee's reaction, but that can be hard to gauge when you haven't been doing ttwd with your partner for very long. However, there is something to be said for simply counting number of strokes. It gives both you and possibly the spankee(especially if they have to count) something to focus on. I don't think I've ever had a spanking with so many strokes, but then again, I still haven't experienced the can or a riding crop. Although the bath brush is MEAN!</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">The "<a href="http://www.herwoodshed.com/library/primer.html">Spanking Primer</a>" by Josh, found in the library section of Bethany's Woodshed. This article promotes that all dd spankings be on the bare:</span></div>
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<span style="color: #674ea7; font-family: Arial; font-size: large;"><i>If you really want to give spanking a fair trial though, the first thing you need to do is stop thinking of your hand as a paddle. Think of it as something more flexible, such as a switch or strap and use it accordingly. Relax your hand and hold it out in front of you and look at it. You'll notice that the fingers naturally splay out with a fraction of an inch of space between them. Keep it relaxed and try it out on your own thigh a few times letting the wrist snap and swinging more from the elbow than the shoulder and unless you're the exception, you'll see the difference immediately. It will sting your thigh more than it does your hand.</i></span></div>
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<span style="color: #674ea7; font-family: Arial; font-size: large;"><i>That may sound complicated, but it's really simple and once you get the hang of it, you can give a longer, stingier spanking without as much bruising for her and less damage to your hand. The reason for that, is that you'll be striking with the more protected part of your hand instead of your knuckles.</i></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit; font-size: large;">Inefficient use of a hand during spanking, is something I've heard about a lot in various forums. Not only can a spanker injure themselves,(and a hand injury is a lot more serious and lasting than a sore bottom) the spankee may find that a hand spanking is quite bearable since some smacks are landing much harder than others so there is a chance for them to catch their breath. But when used correctly, nothing is quite as thrilling/intimidating as knowing he has an efficient implement with him at all times....</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">The best article I've found for this is from the Taken in Hand website, "<a href="http://www.takeninhand.com/a.beginners.guide.to.spanking">A Beginners' guide to Spanking</a>".</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">The author of this article is against counting strokes or minutes at a certain impact and states:</span></div>
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<i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Some men over-estimate what a woman can take; more men underestimate what is needed. What is needed depends so much on the individual woman that it is a good idea to talk about this if possible. Some women prefer lighter, less injurious spankings often, but many seem to crave a really thorough spanking less often but on a regular basis. The man needs to know which kind of woman his wife is.</span></i></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">This idea I ran into while checking out the ttwd forum. They also have a post on <a href="http://www.thisthingwedo.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=11&t=1281">effective spankings</a>. It seems many of the members use something we will call "The Final Six" to gauge whether the spanking has been effective. This is where the spanker asks the spankee if they are ready for their "final six" and gauges the spankees response. For instance, the spankee might still be displaying attitude or not seem sincere, in which case the spanking would continue. It also gives the spankee a chance to admit they haven't had enough without outright saying it. It can be a final six, a "have you had enough" "are you learning your lesson" basically just a verbal cue.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">The problem with this for me is that I am a trained actor. I literally have a degree in theater, and I know what to say and how to sound sincere, although I have noticed that a few moments after the spanking, I drop out of the submissive act, if it's not sincere. Either I"m going to have to tell Cal this, or start admitting that even though it stings something terrible, I'm not quite done. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">The 1950's Household is a harkening back to a different time when the roles of the household were more defined and divorce rates were lower. The husbands generally worked to support the family and the wives kept the house in order and had dinner on the table when their husbands came home. In addition there is an element of "proper attire" as both men and women kept up appearances more rigidly in those days.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">I feel like I should also point out that while many people who participate on the site practice domestic discipline and many practicers of domestic discipline believe in at least some of the ideals of the Taken in Hand overview, the creator of the website does not consider it domestic discipline.</span><br />
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Christian Domestic Discipline is the enactment of traditional roles as ascribed in the bible.<br />
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<li><i>The husband is the head of the household, whilst the wife is submissive to her husband as if the Lord Himself was her husband. See <b>Eph. 5:22-24.</b></i></li>
<li><i>The husband is to love his wife as himself, and as Christ loved the church. He is to be a servant, and leads by example. He is to lay down his life for her. See <b>Eph. 5:25-29.</b></i></li>
<li><i>The wife is to reverence her husband. She is to obey him, so long as his instructions are not in opposition to God's commands. See <b>Titus 2:5, Acts 5:29.</b></i></li>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit; font-size: large;">This is another one that I can't really find a specific website defining specific ideals too, although it is a very popular blog label. I believe it is the idea of domestic discipline based first and foremost on the foundation of "love", as opposed to traditional roles or biblical themes. A mutual decision made by both parties to have one take the lead in things and the other to be punished for mutually agreed upon things. Within this type of relationship it seems more common for the couple to have "contracts" upon which punishment is based.</span></div>
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<span style="color: blue; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i>There are a lot of things we could call it. Domestic discipline is one name. Rules or structure is another. Whatever it is, it works for some people. I am an adult woman, a feminist, and dedicated to principles of nonviolence. I do not believe that any of this is incompatible with the fact that I have asked my partner to help me with creating rules and structure in my life, nor that the consequence of my failure to adhere to the rules and structure is often a spanking.</i></span></div>
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<span style="color: blue; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i>I do not believe that my relationship has been ordained by any higher power, nor that I need this structure because I am a woman. I do not believe that discipline requires a heterosexual partnership.</i></span></div>
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<span style="color: blue; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i>I believe that discipline in my relationship is consistent with healthy adult functioning. I believe that, far from hindering my process of healing from childhood abuse, discipline and structure can be a healing force. I believe that power exchange is not solely erotic.</i></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">The forum isn't exactly abuzz with activity but it can be very useful and it is a good place for those looking for a rather dry(not overtly sexual) discussion of discipline spankings. There is a pretty heavy F/M presence as well, which makes sense to me as the only other term which really defines F/M relationships is Femdom which seems a bit harsher than DD. F/F is also represented. Basically it is a category for those who don't wish to be categorized. </span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit; font-size: large;">So, after all this, I'm left with the question....Which category most closely resembles us? Well I think as many others probably find, we prefer the simple term domestic discipline for our relationship. This is because we find aspects in many of the different categories applicable, but none of them wholey so. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit; font-size: large;">I really like the idea of a 1950's household, and when I'm staying at home with the children it is my ideal to fill that role. Yes, I am terrible at it , but I AM working on it and I hope to become much more efficient in time. I also like the idea of maintaining appearances, but we don't really have the money to invest in ourselves at the moment. I think the big difference it that I will be working once all our kids go off to school. In this "economy"(although I really hate saying that), it seems unfair to leave the financial burden all on him, and I think having a part time job that funds activities and vacations is a good idea. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Agree with the ideals(as I perceived them), but I feel like the "loving" part comes across as just a bit judgemental as though other categories of dd aren't also based on "love".</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Although I find some aspects of bdsm erotic, I have never been into "slave" and "master" roles, piercing, whips, and in general a lot of the aspects of a bdsm lifestyle. I like the idea of light bondage, I like the idea of nipple pinching during sex, I like the erotic aspects of some pain. I'm not at all hardcore about my erotic pain. It is easy for me to separate the feeling of "punishment" versus "erotic" spanking. However we do usually have sex after a punishment session, and I am always pretty turned on...I don't know how to describe it, but it is different.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">I don't enjoy a punishment spanking while it's happening. I think what I find erotic is having him assert his dominance and I LOVE it when he reinforces it sexually right afterwards. I know some people think sex and dd should have nothing to do with each other...but that's their thing. I'm a grown woman. I don't think of spanking as a kid thing, never have. Never ever wanted a spanking from an adult when I was a child. I hate roleplay. I have always thought of spanking as an adult consensual thing. And I have ALWAYS found it erotic. Not that I have anything against roleplay by the way, in case that seemed harsh, sincerely, when it comes to sex and relationships, to each their own.</span><br />
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</tbody></table> Photo to the side of me is of the loopy johnny available on the London Tanners, a place from which I MUST own an instrument some day. This one is unique as it is made of leather, while most are made of rubber or vinyl. It is described as a "REALLY nasty little piece" and comes in at<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"> <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #544b40; line-height: 17px;">£</span>35. It is part of their fantastic looking "domestic discipline" line.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">For those of us who can't afford a store bought one, there is a great blog instructional on making your own for about $8. It's made out of </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px;">rubber or vinyl sprinkler tubing, roll of electrical tape, razor knife, drill,screw driver, and a garden tool with a wooden handle.</span><br />
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</tbody></table>Looks pretty mean right? I'm really tempted by it's under 10 buck do it yourself price tag, but as the bottom in this relationship, I can make or purchase any item, but after that, it really falls on whether or not Cal favors it, and so I could end up making my own worst enemy...<br />
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</tbody></table>The cane has always been the scariest standard instrument to me.<br />
I mean...LOOK AT THOSE MARKS! Those scream discipline, and that is a photo of a pretty unsevere caning. It also reminds me a lot of British school scenarios, so I'd never really thought of it in a home setting. But it can't be argued, it is a relatively quiet instrument, although the sounds from the spankee can't be described as the same...<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">CANE-IAC <a href="http://www.cane-iac.com/">http://www.cane-iac.com/</a> has a really big selection of canes made of various materials and thickness as well as a number of other related items(birches,bamboo, riding crops). Their Rattan is 10 bucks too so the prices aren't to bad. If you bought a basic rattan and made a johnny loopy, you'd have added two pieces to your collection for 20 bucks. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">3)<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: red; font-size: large;">SWITCH</span> </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">This instrument is an always looming possibility. It is one I've tried and I remember it having quite a sting. Although, it was at the very beginning of our spanking experimentation, so I imagine it would be a wildly different experience now. It's an instant repentance experience with the added intensity of going out and picking your own punishment. Not only that, you have to actually strip it and prepare it, or at least watch your hoh do it. Flexible and vicious it leaves thinner lines than a cane and feels like fire when applied to a large area. And there are plenty of switches around, especially where I live...</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
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</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">The switch, like the cane, tends to harken back to a different era, and has certainly fallen out of main stream popularity. Also similarly to a cane, the punishment often goes beyond the butt to the thighs. Since it's not heavy weight, it's focus is mostly on the skin surface and there isn't as much worry about hurting the underlying muscles. There is actually an article recommending switch spanking for a pregnant women or houses with children in it where a silent punisher is required. <a href="http://www.takeninhand.com/node/511">http://www.takeninhand.com/node/511</a> Just make sure it is properly stripped if you want to avoid breaking the skin. There are, I believe, even some store made versions of a switch, but I feel as though the saying "if it aint broke, don't fix it" applies. <a href="http://www.thespankingblog.com/index.php/weblog/comments/the_use_of_the_switch_as_a_punishment_implement/">http://www.thespankingblog.com/index.php/weblog/comments/the_use_of_the_switch_as_a_punishment_implement/</a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">So there you have it, short descriptions of the instruments I'm thinking of introducing. I'm still pretty undecided, but I really have a preference towards wood and leather so the homemade loopy johnny might be a no go. There are certainly other quiet instruments out there, some people say hangers (although I find the thought of those really unsexy), those plastic "blind" rods (again not as into the plastic, but chances are there is one in your house right now). Riding crops are also very quiet, but seem a lot more bdsm than domestic discipline. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">It is a bit frustrating, having to look for quiet implements, I mean I think part of the allure of spanking is the noise, but I'm also tired of having quiet sex, and I certainly wouldn't try to avoid having sex until I was aloud to orgasm at full capacity(which is LOUD, let me tell you) I think it's just the price of kids or thin walls. And we have tried putting spankings off until more private moments at various times, but I think dealing with something fresh is the best way in our personal dd situation. I get a very indignant head full of self righteous steam and am never as submissive if I'm made to wait. </div>Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11081379375079349711noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7922600273495067707.post-81571467092916481742011-10-22T13:22:00.000-07:002011-10-22T13:31:38.723-07:00Our Castle<a href="http://www.ourcastle.com/web-bbs/story.pl">www.ourcastle.com</a><br />
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Our Castle is my all time favorite spanking story site. It was the first site I ever discovered. It isn't covered in porn spam and it doesn't get blocked by porn blockers. It is definitely a niche story site. Heavy on M/F stories, I've only seen a handful of switch since it started in 1998. There are a lot of historical spanking stories, and romances, but there are plenty of domestic discipline stories as well. And there is a "dungeon" section which holds more erotic or bdsm minded material. It definitely isn't as busy as it was in it's hay day, but it has an amazing archive and some of my favorite stories. Many are series, and you have to keep track of them as they tend to get lost amongst all the stories. But it's free, and if you know that these particular genre of stories are your thing, then it saves you from having to wade through stories not knowing if they'll have incest, be M/f, be femdom which has definitely happened to me on other sites.<br />
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One of the most popular writers from ourcastle is Lady Rue<br />
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<a href="http://www.ourcastle.com/posters/rue/dd.html">http://www.ourcastle.com/posters/rue/dd.html</a><br />
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The above link to her website, offers most of her stories, certainly enough to fill a few afternoons. She has written a variety of tales. Some of my favorites include:<br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: red; font-size: large;"><i>Summer Holiday Series</i></span> in the <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: red;">Domestic Discipline</span> section<br />
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<i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: magenta; font-size: large;">How to Improve Your Love Life</span></i> in the <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: magenta;">Humour</span> Section<br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;">Mail-Order Mayhem</span> </i></span>in the <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;">Historical</span> Section<br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #666666; font-size: large;"><i>Slave Training</i></span> in the <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #666666;">Dungeon</span></b> Section<br />
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These are just a few though, I think most are worth a read. There are many more "posters" listed in the "Poster Pages" <a href="http://www.ourcastle.com/posters/">http://www.ourcastle.com/posters/</a> , but to be honest, that particular page is new discovery for me (new as in I discovered it while writing this article) I will be going through and checking it out so I'll let you know if any other "posters" jump to my faves list.Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11081379375079349711noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7922600273495067707.post-89811211204729071302011-10-22T07:21:00.000-07:002011-10-22T13:29:45.004-07:00Kyle Johnson, Baby Faced DisciplinarianKyle Johnson, a "professional disiplinarian" whose videos appear on spanking tube and are for sale through the disciplinary arts spanking library <a href="http://www.spankinglibrary.com/store.php?id=24&page=1">http://www.spankinglibrary.com/store.php?id=24&page=1</a>, has an interesting reputation. There are many complaints on spanking tube that he looks too young and baby faced to be a successful or believable disciplinarian.<br />
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Now, I'm not saying that he doesn't look young. He definitely does. And that is kind of a flattering picture of him (I mean it makes him look a bit older than he usually does). But he also does one of the most convincing lectures I've seen. Just listening to him puts butterflies in my stomach. And half of the videos with doms out there are either made with guys who look 70, or 50 year olds with porn stashes, so really, I guess I personally prefer baby faced. He has a fiance who is big on the spanking scene herself, Kat St James, and they claim to have a dd relationship. Not that I don't believe them, it's just that I think they both do so much role-playing and in front of the camera stuff that he's more believable disciplining relative strangers. <br />
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As I said he does a lot of role playing, scenes, ect, and he also has a series called the "real discipline series" which is supposed to be real girls coming to him for discipline on real issues. I say supposed but I do find is pretty convincing myself. <a href="http://www.spankingtube.com/video/10579/real-discipline-series-christy-s-first-taped-spanking-full-video">http://www.spankingtube.com/video/10579/real-discipline-series-christy-s-first-taped-spanking-full-video</a>. This is just one example.<br />
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The one series I'm most interested in is "Couples Therapy" which comes in 4 parts and tells the journey of a couple starting out in dd. The female has a history with spanking, her fiance does not. Here's the preview <a href="http://www.spankingtube.com/video/3906/couples-help-preview">http://www.spankingtube.com/video/3906/couples-help-preview</a><a href="http://www.spankingtube.com/video/3906/couples-help-preview"></a><br />
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They look like real people, which is probably what makes it such a draw for me, that and what it's about. I mean Cal would never go for something like this but it is a fun fantasy. Kaitlyn isn't a spanking model, but I think it makes in better in this particular case. <br />
Here's a description from disciplinary arts:<br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #676767; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, serif; font-size: 11px;">"Couples Help 1" is a real life series with Kaitlyn and Shaun, a young DD couple who wants to have a better relationship. Shaun was vanilla coming in, and Kaitlyn has been into the lifestyle her whole life. They flew Kyle and Kat out to Indiana for a week to get the help they need. This is a multi part series showcasing the sessions and the results from the beginning to end. In "Part 2", Kyle sits down with both Shaun and Kaitlyn the day after her first session with Kyle, and talks to them both about the struggles they have been facing trying to turn their relationship fully DD. Kyle says he wants to critique Shaun's current discipline so he tells him to give her a real session for something she had done earlier in the day and do the best he can with it so Kyle can see what needs to be worked on.</span><br />
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So anyway, this is my short blog in defense of Kyle Johnson. I'm a fan, baby face be dammed.<br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><i><b>2)Keeping our home in order</b></i></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">3)Getting dinner on the table 6 out of 7 nights</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b>4)Remembering to feed myself</b></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">5)Remember that Cal spent all day working and don't jump all over him as soon as he walks through the door. Verbally anyway.</span><br />
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We don't actually have any set rules, we've tried that before but it never really worked for us in the past. I'd personally rather defer to Cal's judgement. I mean, we do have rules, but we didn't write up a contract or anything. I can understand contracts, but they seem a little...well....legal...<br />
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We are getting into the swing of things, a bit. <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: red; font-size: large;">Consistency</span> has definitely been there much to my chagrin. We have a guest coming in next week, which will be our first real challenge of trying to maintain ttwd in a public aspect. We were throwing around ideas. I think it would really help to actually write everything down and address them all later.<br />
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Did a good job keeping busy yesterday, but after Cal got home I fell apart a bit. Anytime he has beer I assume he's drunk and try to take advantage...REALLY should have counted before assuming he was drunk. And with my ass sore from the day before, <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue; font-size: large;">the hand spankings were ALOT more effective. </span>Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11081379375079349711noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7922600273495067707.post-54999282414258209792011-10-20T08:24:00.000-07:002011-10-20T08:24:48.668-07:00The BeltSo we basically have three different levels at the moment.<br />
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-<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #e06666; font-size: large;">Hand</span><br />
-<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: red; font-size: large;">Spoon/Spatula/Brush</span><br />
-<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #660000; font-size: large;">Belt</span><br />
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Cal wants to eventually get a <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #990000;">paddle</span> and possibly a <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #660000;">cane</span> (the cane freaks me out a bit) and to have 5 different levels.<br />
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Anyway, yesterday I fell into another round of not doing anything. Including feeding myself. We had a midwife appointment and I learned that I'd actually lost 4 pounds. They said it was fine as long as I was getting 3 square meals a day, which I'm not, so all in all Cal was pretty pissed. And to top it off I wasn't in any mood to have a domestic discipline relationship yesterday so I kept arguing against it. By the time it was due I had worked my way up the belt. Which let me just say is worse than the others. I can still feel it today. I had maybe 30 on each side, not full force. Even with the intensity I found myself craving more...I really want to be broken down I think, I know that's not a possibility right now, but that doesn't mean the craving isn't there, just the same as the craving to drink and occasionally to smoke(although I've quit and am never going back) and to eat sushi and ride roller coasters. I'm still me after all.<br />
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I just want to stop wondering if it's just me wanting it to be more of a punishment or if I've spent so much time entrenched in this longing that it will never actually work as discipline in the real sense. It will certainly always turn me on. We were able to have sex yesterday afterwards for the first time in a few weeks and it just felt....<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-large;">AMAZING</span>! <i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #674ea7; font-size: large;">I need constant sex</span></i>. I become very difficult without being taken at least once a week.<br />
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I am feeling more obedient today...I've been working on docs for our mortgage all morning, and I'm about to start on the boxing, (after this quick blog break of course).<br />
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I'm suprised at how bold and honest I'm getting on this thing. So far Cal hasn't read it but it is kind of busting with thoughts I haven't shared with him, so it will be interesting whenever he does finally take a look. I've been very purposefully trying to draw attention away from it, I use safari for all of my....searches and kink related affairs, and we mainly use firefox. All for now, I've been trying to spread out my thoughts on this thing so I don't burn out. Second part of that story to come soon.Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11081379375079349711noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7922600273495067707.post-51725170556060976532011-10-19T08:48:00.000-07:002011-10-19T08:48:36.357-07:00A Fantasy, Part OneShe wore a simple dress with a cherry apron. He walked into the door and took her in. He loved her hourglass frame. It had rounded out since he'd first met her, then she was a gorgeous young thing, muscled and fit, with small pert breasts and a tight ass. He'd loved the way she looked then, but there was something about the curves motherhood had brought her that he found simply irresistible. Milk and pregnancy had filled out her chest, and her breasts now sat slightly lower, but so much fuller than they once had. He watched her widened hips sway to the music she softly hummed. The kitchen was full of wonderful smells. He loved coming home to her cooking creations. He hung up his hat and placed down his briefcase. She had yet to notice him and he crept up behind her, pressing himself into her back.<br />
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"Mmmm, hello stranger," she purred, turning towards him with a smile.<br />
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"Where are the kids?" he whispered in her ear, trailing kisses down her neck<br />
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"Upstairs doing homework."<br />
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"And how's dinner coming along?"<br />
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"Good, just have to finish chopping and then throw it in the oven."<br />
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"Good. I'll be in the study, meet me there."<br />
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The hairs on the back of her neck shot up as her mind went frantically through the events of the day. What did she do?<br />
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He cleared his throat, bring her back to the present.<br />
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"Yes, husband," came out automatically.<br />
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"Hurry up" with that he turned and walked away. She finished the chopping as fast as she could, and found herself all too soon placing the dish in the oven. She wrung her hands on her apron as she walked down the hall towards the study.<br />
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When she reached the door, she took a deep breath, and then opened it. He was sitting behind the desk reading. He didn't look up. He'd changed so much since she'd first met him. When she'd first met him his face was smooth, his form thin and fit. Now he'd grown into a dignified goat tee, she could barely imagine him without the facial hair. He'd widened into his shoulders as well. When she's first met him he'd been to thin for his bones, but over the years he'd filled into his form, and now made quite an intimidating figure. He wasn't an extremely tall man, but he was her perfect size, tall enough that she had to stand on her tip toes to kiss him, and so that he stayed taller than her even in heels, but short enough that she could hug him and rest her head on his shoulder.<br />
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Her eyes glanced down at his hands. Those hadn't changed much. They'd always been large, large and thick. They looked like hands that were made for spanking. Yet even with their callous appearance, when he wanted them to, they could be a gentle as feathers. When he ran them over her body he could be so gentle that her whole form became covered in goosebumps. Her slow steps finally brought her to stand in front of the desk. She looked at him, but he still hadn't responded.<br />
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"Umm," she began,"The kids may be down at any minute.."<br />
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"Take down your panties and bend over the desk"<br />
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She wanted to desperately argue, to question, but she knew that would only make things worse. She reached under her dress and slowly slipped down her bikini style panties. When they were past her thighs, gravity took over and they fell to the floor. She stepped out of them and bent over the table. He waited a few more moments, and then rose from his chair, walking over to her. She softly hissed in breath as his hand ran up the back of her thigh bringing her skirt up over her bare backside. One hand rested on her lower back, the other began caressing her cheeks.<br />
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"Why are you here?"<br />
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<i>Shit..</i>she thought, <i>I have no idea... </i>"Ummm."<br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: red;">SLAP</span> "Not ummm"<br />
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"I don't kn-"<br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; color: red;">SLAP</span>, "Don't you dare finish that sentence"<br />
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"But-" And with that his hand began to fall hard and fast, taking her breath away. She began to whimper, then softly cry out, trying desperately not to make too much noise, just as tears were forming in her eyes, he stopped, returning to his soft caressing touch.<br />
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"Do I have to have a reason to spank you?"<br />
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"No husband"<br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: red;">SMACK</span><br />
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"That's right. I don't. However, this time I do. This was just the appetizer." He calmly stated, as his caress went lower and dipped in between her thighs, lightly brushing her pussy lips. "You have until the kids are asleep to figure out what your in trouble for, or you get the belt." With that his hand abruptly ended her pleasure and he walked out the door. She could hear the kids yell "DADDY!" as she straightened herself. She began to wrack her brain....she had to figure out what she'd done...<br />
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</i>Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11081379375079349711noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7922600273495067707.post-54272500823471479062011-10-18T06:09:00.000-07:002011-10-18T06:09:04.164-07:00Been doing a bit betterI don't know if its the harder quickies or it's because we are in the process of closing on a our first home though. Pretty motivated to get this place packed up. I'm doing a purge. I want to get rid of most of my clothes and slowly start buying <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue; font-size: large;">50's styles dresses</span>. I've always been a big dress wearer, but last pregnancy I slipped into long comfortable hippy esque dresses. But lately I've been obsessed with the idea of <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: red; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">stockings and garter belts</span>. Twenty-five is just too early to be giving up on fashion. Cal wants to go for the more 1920's look of slacks and vests, which I find extremely sexy. That's been another extremely stressful portion of our domestic discipline. Basically as soon as we had to take a break from sex, so this whole time I've been ravenously turned on and <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000; font-size: x-large;">FRUSTRATED</span>. After a spanking being touched is well and fine, but sometimes <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: magenta; font-size: large;"><i>I just want to be filled and have his warm body crash into mine</i></span>. Especially if it's from behind and my ass is <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: red;">blazing</span>...sigh...It's making it harder for me not to fantasize about meeting a professional disciplinarian, which I've always wondered about. I guess it is one of the thing I wish I'd done at age 18 just so that I'd have a comparison. And sometimes the craving becomes relentless. Not that I'd do it...but I don't like having fantasies that don't revolve around my husband.Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11081379375079349711noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7922600273495067707.post-62231360267345571792011-10-16T06:46:00.000-07:002011-10-16T06:46:16.649-07:00My Weekend So Far...This weekend things came to a bit of a head. My biggest issue in basically the whole time we been trying to start this up has been the "<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #134f5c; font-size: large;">strength</span>" of the spanking. I was having a hard time telling whether or not it's because the <i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #351c75;">reality just isn't living up to the fantasy</span></i>, or if it's because I have an <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #660000; font-size: large;">untrained HoH</span>...Well, now I'm positive that it's just his experience.<br />
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Confession...I've been really <span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><u>unsupportive</u> </span>of the fact that he's working so much. He's not even working all day on the weekends. I just like waking up next to him. Not only have I been keeping the house in a terrible state but I've been pretty <u><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">unacceptably lazy</span></u> for over the last two years. And I'm not working. I haven't been cooking or cleaning with regularity, and it's out of control. And the spankings haven't really helped so far. It's really engrained in me.<br />
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So I ended up picking an argument at the worst time, right before bed when he had to wake up in 6 hours. He'd had hit. He ripped into me about everything that was going on. And started talking about how spanking just didn't seem to be working. I said that I knew I needed to work harder and I really didn't want to give it up on domestic discipline yet. And he got really soft(that dangerous soft) and replied that he hadn't said anything about stopping, and that it was just obvious that he was going to have to up the <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: red; font-size: large;">severity</span> until it actually worked. And then he gave me the hardest hand spanking I've ever had. His hand really felt like <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #783f04; font-size: large;">wood</span>. I felt it the next morning, which is a first.<br />
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Now because of time constraints we still haven't gotten to do a full fledged spanking "session" yet but he's definitely becoming more efficient at quickies. And I've also realized that I push instantly, as hard as I can. Especially if something isn't the way I expected it to be. It's a strange conundrum. <i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: magenta; font-size: large;">I want to be more submissive and "not in" control, but only when it suits me? </span></i>Well that is NOT how this is going to work.<br />
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Writing this made me feel pretty guilty so I'm going to start on cleaning and see how much I can get done before he gets home...Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11081379375079349711noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7922600273495067707.post-50540224150605209102011-10-14T07:11:00.000-07:002011-10-14T07:13:47.180-07:00ResultsWell I procrastinated through the nap and then dd woke up cranky and hungry, which was when I realized that I had gotten no food, and so I had to run to the market. At which point I was very close to Cal's arrival home. I called to see when he was coming, the conversation went something like this:<br />
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<span style="color: magenta;">Me</span>: Hey babe, just checking on your arrival estimate?<br />
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<span style="color: blue;">Cal</span>: As soon as I can, I feel like crap..<br />
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<span style="color: magenta;">Me</span>:NO!<br />
<span style="color: blue;">Cal</span>:Excuse me?<br />
<span style="color: magenta;">Me</span>:I just...I...I procrastinated, and now I have to take dd to get lunch and I haven't done ANYTHING!<br />
<span style="color: blue;">Cal</span>:Well then you know what's gonna happen<br />
<span style="color: magenta;">Me</span>:Can't I have til 4-<br />
<span style="color: blue;">Cal</span>:No, no negotiating, I'll see you when I get home<br />
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This really motivated me. I ran to the market, came back, started frantically cleaning and had everything fixed by the time he was home, at least adequately so. Really didn't take me very long either, so it's silly that I fought it so much.<br />
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So we've been doing this for 2 weeks, and so far this is a pattern with me. I've been skirting really big punishments, and then behaving generally badly the rest of the night. So I end up with more mild spankings. Although it is obviously hard to make time for a full blown punishment spanking in a small apartment with dd.Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11081379375079349711noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7922600273495067707.post-36044330268947818062011-10-13T09:42:00.000-07:002011-10-14T12:29:50.056-07:00A long time coming Part TwoSo we <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: magenta;">married</span> and <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #999999; font-size: large;">moved in with his parents</span>, basically picking up our live where he had left his at 19. <span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-large;">And...it...was....terrible</span>. Just awful. I suddenly found myself married, yet living like a teenager. All the things I'd loved about him while we were traveling and dating, I hated in marriage. I realized that dd was something that I just couldn't live without. I could put it out of my mind for periods of a time but it always came back, insistently. It crept into the corner of my mind and suddenly I'd be reading stories everyday, thinking about it constantly. Worse I was treating my husband terribly. I started <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: red; font-size: large;">pushing</span> him at every turn. <b>Talking down</b> to him all the time, <b>badgering</b> him into submission during all our arguments(which I started over nothing) and generally making us both <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #999999; font-size: large;">miserable</span>. We loved each other, and our relationship never went into real jeopardy, but it certainly wasn't what I'd hoped for, and I did storm out a number of times.<br />
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About 6 months in, I finally told him I wanted a more "<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">traditional</span>" relationship, and my real feelings about spanking began to come out. It was very slow though, and he wasn't really quite ready to pick up the reigns. He would in moments, but there was not consistency. We moved back to America after our second year of marriage, and I became pregnant with our firsthild. He practically changed overnight. We both cleaned up our acts and settled into married life. We tried introducing dd again but as I became more and more pregnant it slipped away. After the birth of our daughter, <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: red; font-size: xx-small;">spanking</span> didn't even enter my mind for a few months. When it finally did, we began again but it has never stayed consistent.<br />
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brings us to now. I'm currently in the early second trimester of my second pregnancy, and we are once again working on finally making my fantasy a reality. Although I'm not foolish enough to believe they will match up perfectly, not to say I don't wish it did sometimes. And so I'm starting this blog, to share my journey, my expectations, disappointments, and hopefully growth.<br />
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Hmmm, I have to get the little girl down for a nap and I haven't cleaned the house at all. Cal is due home between 3 and 4. It's almost 1 now...I should have time...we'll see.Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11081379375079349711noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7922600273495067707.post-81834564396259162672011-10-13T08:30:00.000-07:002011-10-14T12:31:45.108-07:00A long time coming (Part One)<h3 class="post-title entry-title"></h3><div class="post-header"></div>As I sit and write this I am currently <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: red; font-size: large;">procrastinating</span> on housework. I'm going for that last minute burst of energy hopefully I'll do enough to save my butt.<br />
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So it's been two weeks since my husband and I started our latest dd efforts. But I feel like the best way to start this thing is with a little background, I promise I'll write interesting perspective pieces after this stuff is all out of the way.<br />
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Spanking as well as domestic discipline has been a part of my inner mind since the awakening of my sexuality. The word <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: x-large;">spanking</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: red; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> </span>has excited me for as long as I remember, and the word spanking has fascinated me since I first looked it up in a dictionary sometime before the age of ten. During my teens, I spent anytime I could on the computer soaking up stories and other information I was too young for. While other teens dreamed of backstreet boys, I <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue; font-size: x-small;">fantasized</span> about strong <i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: #eeeeee; color: #38761d; font-size: large;">dominant</span></i> men who would take me over their knee when I needed it. I dreamed of the day when I turned 18 and could finally start looking for someone with the same interest. Of course I was a little nervous when the time actually came, and so I put it off and delved into university. At the end of my freshman year I met the love of my life, my now husband, we'll call him Cal. He was only 19 himself, and had dropped out of school to travel (he's originally from Oz).<br />
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We got along amazingly, but he was the skinny boy that most teenagers would go for, not the alpha male of my dreams. Regardless, I found myself more and more enthralled with him, and we ended up remaining together from the moment we left, even though a lot of that time was spent long distance figuring out how to be together in real life. <br />
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Now it took me about a year to tell Cal about my interest in spanking, and even when I did I could only bring myself to mention it in a sexual foreplay way. <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;"><i>So for the first 3 years almost of our being together, the most I could hope for was a smack during sex or playfully.</i></span> He didn't seem overly judgmental or anything, I'd just spent so much time with this secret, that actually telling anyone about it was almost impossible. Plus we did everything together. Cursed together, smoked pot together, generally had all our immature teenage experiences together.<br />
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After I graduated we decided to get married and live in Australia. I was 21 at the time. I had a lot of moments where I wondered if I'd be okay without spanking or dd in my life, and I'd decided I would. Boy was I wrong.Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11081379375079349711noreply@blogger.com0